If you don't ask, you don't get

As a person I am sometimes guilty of waiting for things to happen to me. It’s not that I’m spoilt or expect things to fall into my lap, more that I’m afraid of coming across as desperate or pushy. I’m a great believer of if it’s mean to be it will be, but in the past I feel I’ve been abusing that notion and using it as way of staying in my comfort zone.

Because surely for things to even be, you have to create a situation that allows those things to be a possibility. So I’ve made a promise to myself this year, that I will create and take every opportunity that becomes available to me, in order to step out of my comfort zone and really push myself.

My main priority is to assist as many Makeup Artists as I can. I feel there is no better way to learn, network and experience all the different sides of the Makeup Industry and so for the last 2 weeks I’ve been emailing people that I’ve been following and admiring over the last few years. This is something in the past I would have talked myself out of....I don’t know how to contact them, they’ll never reply, I’m too old anyway, were all excuses that I would come up with because I was scared of being rejected. Thankfully I’ve stopped being so negative and what do you know, thinks are starting to happen!

I’ve had some amazing responses to my emails and everybody has been so friendly and helpful that I feel a total fool for taking so long to get a grip. I’ve realised that there isn’t a set way of doing things, that there isn’t a script you must follow. The Makeup industry is a creative one, where individuals are celebrated for their own unique style and talent. Who you are is huge part of what you do, so it’s important to get your vibe across the very first time you contact someone. For them, the email that you have sent them is their first impression of you. Make it a good one!

Also I feel this should go without saying but manners is always a MUST. Make sure to say please and thank you and to really take the time in your email, to tell them your story and why you are contacting them in particular. If you’ve been a fan of them for a long time than why would you want to reel off a 5 word message anyway, it just screams that you don’t care. Social media has made everybody so accessible which is great, but don’t think that a quick comment with a few cute emoji’s is going to get you anywhere. If your wanting to reach out and create lasting relationships than remember that the people you are talking to have most likely worked from the ground up and have earnt your respect.

And that’s it! After months of scaring myself to death I can confirm that asking to assist a Makeup Artist really is that easy. Be nice and polite, take the time to talk a little of yourself and a little of them and I’m 100% sure that you will get a response. It might not be straight away and it might not always be the answer that you want, but I guarantee you will feel all smiley inside and full of confidence for the next time you step out of your comfort zone.

I’ll be blogging on here about any assisting that I do, so keep your eyes peeled!


If you want something you’ve never had, you must do something you’ve never done
— Unknown